Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Too Sexy or Too Tacky? Let's Discuss #BlogChat #Romance

Yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but, to me, some things truly cross the line. I'm looking at Miley Cyrus at the VMA's and am wondering, "what the hell?"

Photo by Mario Anzuoni, Reuters

Yes, she might simply be going for shock value and, obviously, she's gotten the world talking about her again, but my question is, has the idea of "sexy" changed over the years? As a romance novelist, I'd like to know. Should my heroines be dressing in plastic bags covered with balloons? 

Photo via the All Access Photo Group

Or chains?

I'm not a prude. I think women should embrace their sexuality and enjoy looking good. It's not just Miley, but the culture as a whole. Men in their early twenties or teens who wear their pants hanging off their ass and girls with crop tops and short shorts who don't seem to care about "class." Is that an outdated word? Maybe it is. 

My 19 year old daughter shows me her Instagram every now and then where her girl friends are posing for selfies in thongs or barely-there crop tops. In some ways, I look back at the body I used to have at that age and wish I'd flaunted it more--it was the early 90s and flannel shirts were "the thing." Grunge, remember that? Not that I'd want to return to that at all, but I'm confused by the overt-in-your-face-look-at-me-and-give-me-attention-now culture. 

I think women's bodies are gorgeous. I also believe women should enjoy highlighting their best features. But strutting around naked or nearly naked is not sexy in my opinion. Where's the mystery? Where's the challenge? Where is the allure? 

I love clothes, especially those with a flattering cut. Sexy, to me, leaves something to the imagination. I don't care if it's a man (please pull up your pants) or a woman, but I prefer some mystique. Sexy is an attitude--whether you're wearing sweatpants and a torn t-shirt or glammed up. When you're practically naked and parading around in public or taking Instagram pics of yourself nearly nude, only one word comes to mind for me and it's not sexy...it's "desperate." 

Look at these women below, for example, Jennifer Aniston and Amal Clooney. To me, these pictures are sexy. 

Beauty is subjective, I know. What do you think? How far is too far? Do you like the "in-your-face-look-at-my-tits-and-ass" culture or do you prefer leaving something to the imagination?